However our traditions in celebrating birthdays has grown over the years and I must admit that it wasn't always about the celebration and the family circle as being significant in this.
|Kynan on his 4th Birthday|
(This is just an example from our photo album that I scanned, His third birthday wasn't as 'picture obvious')
Now this wasn't an un usual thing in the circle of friends and family situation we have.
The party was always something for guests, for others outside of the immediate family certainly not the same sort of attention you give to JUST....your family.
I remember staying up late the night before his birthday, making
Our family has the most important people in the world to me and I was not giving them their proper level of importance by making sure we had "special" food, decorations and party ideas for others who are not essential to our family circle.
It wasn't until I read Sarah Ban Breathnach's Mrs. Sharp's Traditions: Reviving Victorian Family Celebrations Of Comfort and Joy book and devoured all the wonderful traditions that I started to see how I could achieve this in our family.
You see I came from a family where birthdays were not all that special and certainly other special days like Christmas were not that greatly appreciated.
We did not have particular foods or cooking days to celebrate these times and making an effort at decorating or having a tradition for this day was not even something I had heard about.
In my early years as a wife and mother I had to teach myself ALL the traditions and crafts I do now. I had to train myself in finding traditions that we wanted to use in our family. I had to learn how to sew, cross stitch, make patchwork quilts for our beds and special decorations for our home or clothes. (I still struggle with clothes but am getting better).
In our early years we could not afford to buy decorating items for our home. I made cross stitch for the walls and I made door stops shaped like ducks, hanging hearts out of calico etc. I made many gifts for relatives as we just couldn't afford to buy them. This I think made a 'homey' looking home that we felt at , well home in.
Well that was a huge digression from birthdays.... Sorry
While reading the marvelous Mrs Sharps Traditions I loved the significance of birthdays within the family circle. The whole book is about celebrating the everyday miracle of family life together.
I have scanned from my book the two pages on Birthdays for you to read. You will have to click on them and then zoom in to read them though, sorry I can't get it any better.
The main ideas I got from this was making a birthday crown from gold cardboard and making a throne to put on the birthday person's chair and of course the seasons table (as explained in anther part of the book).
These are the mainstays of our birthdays, except obviously the birthday presents.
1. All presents go into the birthday bag I have made for each child.
|Arwen's birthday bag|
3. The gold cardboard crown has transformed into a felt decorated crown, (instruction on how easy and quick they are to make here) individually made for the child each year.
|Arwen's 1st Birthday crown|
5. We have a golden star path from the bed of the birthday child to the season table where the birthday bag is waiting.
6. We have a birthday banner that is displayed in the room. This is also homemade.
7. I make a novelty cake for the birthday child
|Stephens Chess board cake this year|
|Birthday ring...after the meal|
10. The birthday child chooses the main birthday meal.
11. Siblings make homemade cards and gifts.
12. PARTY bags. These are paper bags decorated and then our favourite lollies put in
|An example of a Party bag....before trading!!|
14. The happy birthday plate is placed out at the evening meal
Alphabet ones and printing out a picture of the saint as well
|Eden's St Philomena|
|Arwen's 1st Throne|
Updated 2014- We also have a birthday fairy that I made a couple of years ago
After all God created the family first to be an example of community and we can share that sense of community with those very special people within our family circle....our Domestic Church.
From there who know what those children can do and how they can share God's love when they have experienced the love in their own home that says You are special......always!
Blessings to you and your homes,